On many days when I am lost between choices and decisions, i often wonder how awesome would it be to have my older/future self give me directions in life? Get the right advice by myself to myself all the time. This thought has appeared and re-appeared quite often in the last 4-5 years. So here I am finally beginning to pen down a series of such posts, this being the first of many. Perhaps the advice penned here could be of some use to others
A letter to my 21yr old self
Dear Sneha Das,
Congratulations on your first day at work! I know Mumbai can be daunting and the monsoon has only begun. I also know that this city is filthy and stinks. The people seem to be in a hurry all the time, and blunt/rude too…But I assure you, it grows on you. You will be coming back to this city more often than you know and soon this shall be home. This city will become one of your greatest teacher and teach you lessons – you will have your highest highs and the lowest lows here
2. Have patience – I know everyone around is either going abroad, cracking entrance exams like a pro or getting on with their life one way or another. Miracles do not happen overnight. Remember to have fun and a lot of patience, your journey has only begun. Do not doubt your abilities and there is no reason or logic to prove anything to anyone. Don’t compare and make hasty life decisions as different people want different things out of life. What might be joyful to someone else might not be so for you, hence there is not point chasing someone else’s dreams
3. Respect relationships – The next five years will seem like a roller coaster. I know you feel like “you’ve arrived” but trust me kid, there’s a long way to go and its a marathon, not a sprint. You will hit (what it would seem like) rock bottom. Just like a marathon, where you need your people running beside you to nudge you to run harder, to pep talk/support you when you lag and to cheer you when you reach the finish line; life is more fulfilling when you have meaningful relationships. The biggest mistake you will make is to take people for granted. Keep to yourself when you are tempted to say a harsh word or two to people who matter the most – family, your boyfriend or friends, as words cut deep and the wound is long lasting. It takes less than a few seconds to break something and years (and a lot of hard work) to mend the pieces. When the times are tough, and trust me there would be such times too, these are the people who will love and support you unconditionally.
4. Do a favor – Go the extra mile for someone, do a favor or two for someone today. People remember kindness and trust me, what goes around does come around. Well, not always so don’t get your hopes too high
5. Lighten up – There is absolutely no logic is spending all your waking hours thinking, doing and talking about work, your future or your boyfriend. Do your job, give it your best and that’s all you need to do. Remember, just like all things in life – your job too is a part of life and not your entire life. Take care of your health and your mind. Travel, meet new people, read a lot, listen to music – A LOT.
All in all, love yourself, trust your instincts & do not regret the choices you make as it will all tie in together (I am from the future remember?) …have fun! Remember, that time is the only thing you have, so spend it wisely
P.S: With regards to your boyfriend, chill! This might sound implausible, but the two of you get married with the blessings of your parents and all is well with both sides of the family